Self-harming and young people

Understanding Self-Harm

What can seem as something unthinkable and difficult to understand for most, is for some a part of everyday life. So why do some people, and young people in particular, deliberately harm themselves?

Why People Self-Harm

Self-harm is often a symptom of underlying depression or even an indication that the person has suicidal ideas – a cry for help. The physical pain of self-harm in some way relieves the emotional pain the individual is undergoing. Often that individual has feelings of self-loathing and low self-esteem, perhaps as the result of bullying or depression.

Signs Someone May Be Self-Harming

Some of the physical warning signs that someone may be self-harming include scarring from cutting with a knife or razor on the corresponding arm, depending whether left or right handed, as well as lacerations on the lower arms, legs and abdomen. Often that individual will try and hide the evidence by wearing long sleeves, even in hot summer weather, and may also be very weepy, preferring to withdraw from interaction of any kind with friends and others.

Getting Help for Self-Harm

If someone is self-harming it is important to get a diagnosis and treatment as soon as possible. A good starting point is the GP who may then refer to CAMHS (Child & Adolescent Mental Health Services) or to a specialist therapist at a local child and adolescent psychiatric clinic or to an appropriate consultant psychiatrist depending on the age of the patient. The underlying causes of the self-harming can then be pin-pointed and treated accordingly and ultimately the physical aspects of the illness resolved.

Treatment Options

Treatment may involve counselling for the individual, talking therapies such as CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and in some cases, group or family therapy are useful in getting to the root cause of the self-harming. Some patients may also benefit from antidepressants, such as Fluoxetine, which is particularly suited to younger teenagers. If so, it is important that these are prescribed at an adequate dosage and for an adequate period of time. In severe cases however, it may be necessary for the patient to be admitted to an adolescent psychiatric unit where intensive supervision and treatment can be given.

Self-harming FAQ

What is self-harm and why do people do it?

Self-harm is the act of deliberately hurting oneself as a way to cope with emotional pain, intense stress, or psychological distress. For many, the physical pain temporarily relieves overwhelming emotions or feelings of numbness.

Is self-harm always linked to suicidal thoughts?

Not always. While self-harm can be a sign of suicidal ideation, many individuals who self-harm do not want to end their lives. Instead, they may be trying to manage emotional pain or express feelings they cannot put into words.

What are some warning signs that someone may be self-harming?

Common signs include unexplained cuts or bruises, wearing long sleeves in hot weather, withdrawal from social interactions, and signs of depression or anxiety. Individuals may also become secretive or overly protective of their privacy.

What treatment options are available for someone who self-harms?

Treatment may include talking therapies such as CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), medication like antidepressants, and in some cases, inpatient care. Family therapy or support groups may also help address the underlying issues.

How can I support someone who is self-harming?

Stay calm, listen without judgment, and encourage them to seek professional help. Avoid reacting with anger or guilt. Helping them connect with a GP, therapist, or mental health professional can be a crucial step.